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Topic 20
LOVE AND FRIENDSHIP. HOW TO GET READY FOR
MARRIAGE?
Love and friendship are the brightest feelings of our life. They
become the source of joy and positive energy. Both feelings – love and
friendship closely correlate and interact, as they possess a lot of
common characteristics.
First of all love and friendship is relationship, which requires
time, effort and many other characteristics, which form mutual
relationship. Both, love and friendship assume emotional involvement,
care, respect and devotion. Both feelings undergo transformations with
the flow of time and go through different stages.
Great relationships aren’t discovered; they are created. Anyone
with sufficient motivation and a willingness to do the work required
for a successful relationship is capable of achieving this. What is
required is the development of certain traits and skills and the
motivation necessary to accomplish that.
When young people think about marriage, they are certain that
their future holds only ongoing love and appreciation for each other.
They do not expect to have conflicts or to experience doubt,
frustration, anger and disappointment. However, the reality is that
those emotions will inevitably arise. It is wise to prepare yourself
ahead of time for these times by noticing how you handle conflict and
loss in your life today.
Men and women should get to know one another completely
before deciding to get married. Important issues such as religion,
finances, career, and whether or not to have children should be
discussed so that the couple can learn each other’s views. Marriage is
not about changing someone; instead, it is about loving your partner
for his or her beliefs.
So, you need to think really long and hard whether you’re
going to spend every single day with this person, you need to make
sure this person is also considered one of your dearest friends. You