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remain sexually faithful to me so that I do not have to clutter up my
intellectual life with jealousies. And I want a wife who understands
that "my" sexual needs may entail more than strict adherence to
monogamy. I must, after all, be able to relate to people as fully as
possible.
If, by chance, I find another person more suitable as a wife than
the wife I already have, I want the liberty to replace my wife with
another one. Naturally, i will expect a fresh, new life; my wife will
take the children and be solely responsible for them so that I am left
free.
When I am through with school and have a job, I want my wife
to quit working and remain at home so that my wife can more fully
and completely take care of a wife's duties.
My god, who "wouldn't" want a wife?

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LOVE IS NEVER ENOUGH
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By Aaron T. Beck,
Daniel Maltz and Ruth Borker have summarized differences in
the communication of men and women:
Asking questions. In female-male conversations, the female
asks most of the questions. Women see questions as a way to keep a
conversation going, while men see them as requests for information.
Men think, If she wants to tell me something, she'll tell me. A woman
thinks, If I don't ask, he'll think I don't care.
Showing closeness. Women show a greater use of the pronouns
you and we. Men make more declarations of fact or opinion.
Many women feel, The marriage is working as long as we can
talk about it. Husbands think, The relationship is not working if we
have to keep talking about it.
Discussing problems upsets some husbands; they prefer to
arrive at a quick, practical solution. But wives want to "talk the
problem out."
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Текст друкується за виданням Aaron T.Beck, Love Is Never Enough (New
York: Harper& Row, 1988). Adapted. Copyright © by Aaron T.Beck

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